Tuesday, 28 August 2012

Love Weds Arranged

This post won an Amazon Kindle 6" in the Indiblogger and Sony Entertainment Television 'Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage' Contest
Life is a bagful of experiences, filled with the souvenirs of new beginnings. Marriage is one such new beginning filled with beautiful moments. It is in fact a  voyage undertaken by two individuals. Through hope and happiness, smiles and laughter, love and affection, the two travel together, hand in hand through life's ups and downs. 
The two travel together hand in hand
Over the past 25 years, my perception about marriage has changed tremendously. But over the years, I have also realized a lot of things. Till a certain age all of us are unaware of the realities of life. But the only truth is that life moves on - people change and so do our priorities. Marriage is a vital choice - it is indeed life's most important decision.
Shaadi ke laddu
I recently read an interesting article on turning 25 and how things change after that. One of the comments left a lasting impact on me.

This is how it read:
'Here's the thing about 25. Do not marry anyone for any reason other than the right ones...Your spouse is the most important choice you can make in your life. Careers come and go, and passions wax and wane, but a spouse can be the number one determining factor in your happiness. Life is too short to be miserable, there's too much crap in the world for you to ever have to deal with it at home. Pick a spouse that (cliche alert!) completes you. Pick a spouse that supports you. Pick a spouse whose nose you can pick.'

Funny but true, isn't it? Life is already full of problems. So why would anyone want to come back home to deal with more? I know picking a spouse whose nose you can pick is a little tricky, but it shouldn't really matter if you actually love the person. It's all about affection.
Your spouse is the most important choice you can make in life
I see a lot of couples around me, who want to get married just because they have to. Many opt love marriage because they think their girlfriend/boyfriend is the most beautiful/handsome person in the world. Many others go for arranged marriage because they think their life would be ruined if they do not heed their
parents' advice. I fail to understand such people. They are still shrouded in the darkness of ignorance and immaturity.
Let their be light
Love marriage or arranged marriage is not really important since both have their pros and cons. What is important is life-long companionship and undying affection. Marriage is a not about hanging around and having fun. Nor is it something that must be done under pressure. Marriage comes with a lot of responsibility. Acceptance, love, forgiveness, patience, affection, and mutual understanding can actually make a marriage successful.
Marriage means acceptance, love, and mutual understanding
Before you take a step ahead, pause for a moment and ask yourself, is this what I want to do? Am I getting married under any kind of pressure? Is this the person I truly love? Your fate is in your hands. Nobody is going to decide what you want in life. You need to be sure of your decision. Love marriage or arranged marriage, as long as you are happy and satisfied, nothing else really matters.
Your fate is in your hands
Do not take any decision in haste. If arranged marriage is your choice, do think about your preferences too. Do not go for it blindly or without thinking. On the other hand if love marriage is your choice, take the first step and talk to your parents about it. They might have numerous issues, they might not even agree, but if you really want something, talk it out and make it happen.
Take the first step
If you have found your true love and want to marry that person, handle the situation wisely. Conversation is essential. Talk to your family. Be frank and express your feelings. If you are 100% sure, try convincing them. A decision once taken cannot be undone, so think twice before choosing your life-partner. That person should be someone who respects you and your individuality. Someone who loves you the way you are. 
Handle the situation wisely
And if you have decided to go for an arranged marriage and are getting married as per your family's choice, do not rush into things. This life is yours. Your parents can only be happy if you are happy. Have faith in yourself and your parents' decision. Look at the pros and cons. Do not hesitate to talk to your to-be-spouse.
Look at the pros and cons
Marry someone who you would want to grow old with. Someone whose happiness will mean the world to you. Whose wrinkles would never deter you from kissing her goodnight. Whose sagging body will never affect you from loving him. Whose pain will hurt you as much as your own. Whose happiness will fill you with joy. A married couple should not only support one another through thick and thin, but also learn to appreciate each other's choices.
Someone who loves you the way you are
A perfect marriage would be one where differences would never matter. Where love and arranged would marry one another in perfect harmony. Love shall be arranged, and the arrangement shall be loved. Here's a beautiful video that describes a perfect marriage proposal:
This post has been written for Indiblogger and Sony Entertainment Television's contest Love Marriage Or Arranged Marriage?

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65 comments/suggestions:

Rahul Bhatia said...

Anukriti, needless to say that this is the best post I came across this subject for all the visual splendor and the perfect understanding of a marriage. I wish you the very best both in real and reel( the contest!)life.

The Solitary Writer said...

Yes I second Rahul uncle.You have firstly penned it well and the photos just adds to the beauty of the post. Very good Anu.Brilliant.My sis is back with bang :D

Nirvana said...
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Nirvana said...

Been reading and thinking quite a bit on this topic (contest and all!).. And this is one of the superior ones I have read. Beautiful pictures, and little bursts of wisdom make this a read that I would read again and again to get the full depth of what you've written! Lovely!

Uma said...

Very-well articulated post, Anukriti!
All the best for the contest!

Namrata Mahalingam said...

This is the best post I have come across on this never ending debate! And the pictures are beautiful!

I see you as a potential winner :)

Divenita said...

I agree with Bhatiaji.
Have read ,most of your posts on contests-related.

And, trust me you do justice to each contest.

I look forward to the contests to read the posts by you!

Vikram Karve said...

Nicely written post with an attractive get up.

prasanna raghavan said...

yes choose the one with whom you can realate with
All the best

The Fool said...

Nice and crisp analysis.

Sabyasachi Patra | Tales from Wild India said...

Very nicely written post. Lucid. nice images as well. All the best for the contest.

Anita said...

Very interesting Anukriti. I wonder if you are aware of who this Eccentric Baker ( www.eccentricbaker.blogspot.com) is? She sounds a lot someone I think is working at Random House. You might be able to tell us more!

I find her a bit brash - but yet funny.

Sonia said...

WOW.. This is the most beautiful post I came across for this contest.. Good luck for the contest :)

Prashanth said...

The pics are amazing, it suits perfectly with the words. You have explained nicely the pros and cons of both the styles of marriage. At the end it doesn't really matter which way you are getting married, what matters is can you make it work in either of the case..:)
All the best for the contest, Anukruti....Cheers...:)

numerounity said...

Awwww...Anukriti, i absolutely absolutely loved this one...the best thing that took my heart away is the pics that you posted.

Amazing clicks.


....your blog has word verification...oops! :)

Ray "Wooden-horse" Flinck said...

wonderful...

No offence to all other bloggers, but didi, u are my favourite blogger and i dont feel any restrictions to admit it right here :)....

Saurabh Chawla said...

very nice post Anukriti :) loved the read. All the best!! here have a look at this one too whenever you get time :)

http://saurabhchawla2345.blogspot.com/2012/08/finally-love-is-arrangedby-god.html

and do promote it on indiblogger if you like it :)

Akshay Kumar G said...

I think this was the most beautiful take on the whole love or arranged marriage saga I have read. :)

jaish_vats said...

I agree to what most of the others have said . This is one of the best posts that I have read and here goes a pat on ur back for all that maturity . Splendid !

goingbeyondthepages said...

Very well written Anukriti :)

manan guju said...

LOOVE the clip at the end!

Panchali said...

A winning piece, Anukriti...:) Well penned..and the pics have probably been taken from a Bengali wedding...:) Very nice...

Obsessivemom said...

Absolutely delightful.. The pictures are lovely but the video is the awesomest. Have watched it two times over.

Anukriti Sharma said...

Have removed word verification for convenience. Will respond back to everyone asap. Thanks for all the love and compliments. :)

Anita said...

Great to know that you have removed word verification, but do be careful about spam!

Looking forward to know the truth about whether the rumors are true that she is from Random House!

Anukriti Sharma said...

@Anita
I have absolutely no clue about the Eccentric Baker

Dr Sneha Rahatekar said...

here for the first time.. and wow.. u just solved the biggest decision of my life.. m gonna save this page.. and ever again i have doubts m gona read this piece.. thanks a lot

Vaishali Jain said...

I'm not here for the first time, so I knew that I would be getting something good to read. Well, I agree whole-heartedly with what you wrote.

A really nice take on the prompt + the pictures are awesome. Loved them! :)

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Anita said...

I thought you would have known Anukriti - since she has your blog linked up. Hmmmmmmmm..............well I guess time will tell who she is.

I agree fully with what you said Dr. Sneha. :)



Abhishek Ghosh said...

Your post is one of the best writing on this topic.

On another Indiblogger's blog, I posted a comment : http://obsessivemom.blogspot.in/2012/08/devils-advocate.html
(Probably it will be visible after moderation, you can copy paste here if you want.)

It basically proves your point "I see a lot of couples around me, who want to get married just because they have to."

Love wed and arranged wed can not even be a troll, forget to be a debate. Its like comparing a life time veg and a non veg. Arranged wed is actually is the last way to get married.

Manjulika pramod said...

Very detailed one and you have explored all pros and cons of marriage, be it love or arranged..nicely put up. :)

mukeshrijhwani said...

I loved the pictures - awesomeness personified.

Video is just amazing - thanks for sharing.

There's a point that I found difficult to digest
"If you have found your true love and want to marry that person, handle the situation wisely."

There's often the case when one has to bow down. Wisely, hmm let me think... I beg to differ.

Cheers,
Mukesh
here's my entry
http://mukeshrijhwani.wordpress.com/2012/08/30/love-ya-arrange/

Priyaa said...

Very well said...The pictures just added to the beauty of it!!!

Andy David said...

Hello.
Visiting from the group Bloggers.

As one who has been married for almost eleven years, I can honestly say marriage is the best thing to have happened to me. We've had our share of ups and downs and tribulations from life in general, but what has gotten us through is the love and support we have given to each other. All too often nowadays, men and women are looking for perfection in marriage in an imperfect world. My wife's imperfections are what make her even more beautiful to me and I'm sure if you were to ask her she would say the same about me. What I love about being married is that I don't have to put on an act...I can just be myself. My days at work are long and sometimes stressful, but as soon as I leave work, my mood changes, because I know I'll be going home to my wife. Wherever she is, that's my home and my life. Nice write-up. Wishing you all the best with the competition and your future endeavors. Thanks for sharing.

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Swapna said...

Again you display a sense of maturity way beyond your age and with an amazing clarity. Loved the pictures too. Best of luck dear Anukriti. :)

Swapna said...

Again you display a sense of maturity way beyond your age and with an amazing clarity. Loved the pictures too. Best of luck dear Anukriti. :)

mysay.in said...

very nice post ! its true that its all about companion ship be love marriage or arranged.well narrated!

Priya Sreeram said...

lovely post anukriti- very nice perspective. cheers

Kappu said...

Yes, agree with you. Marriage should not be done for the heck of it, just cos you want to get married - lest you wanna be marred for life!

Passions wax and wane, but spouse.. yeah! :)

Do stop by my blog! Kappu

Rahul said...

Very beautiful photos. Anita, I think I know who this Eccentric Baker is. I read her blog, I think it is Priyanka Sarkar herself. I think she is coming out with a new book and she is trying to market it.

Richa Singh said...

great post and lovely pictures anukriti :)

really loved the article a lot!!

Krazzy Ki said...

Really needed to read this post..gr8 thoughts.. comforting and inspiring!!
Ruhie

Manjulika pramod said...

Hey, very interesting...

Aditi Mitra said...

superbly written dear...marriage is more than love or arranged...we need to understand this basic fact so that our children can make better decisions!!

Deepa said...

So far the best I have read on this topic. Neat and well written, wise and understanding! Best wishes for the contest!

installer said...

beautiful photos and great article...

Jen..The Butterfly Effect said...

Anu baby! The best post I came across for this particular contest on indiblogger!! :)

Be loved and love! xD

xo

umashankar said...

I may be late at your post, but hey, few have put it with such a straight bat.

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gayatri soni said...

congrats to you dear!

& thanks for removing verification code ;)

Kirti Gautam said...

It is a good post but nothing to new. Who one tell me

Kirti Gautam said...
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Kappu said...

Love the pictures! were they clicked by you?? Thats a wonderful collection then!!!

Do stop by my blog! I'd love your comments & visits!!

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AvAnIkA said...

loved it! :) :)

Aditi Mathur Vaishnavi said...

Very well said Anu...

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